Stepfamily Holiday Survival Tip #10:
Keep your perspective. What’s the bottom line in dealing with holiday madness in a stepfamily? The same three C’s we teach in all our resources at STEP–Carefully! — Caring, Consideration, and Common sense.
Care for your loved ones. Care about how you are teaching them to be adults. Care about the reputation you will be carrying through life.
Be Considerate of others’ feelings. Show consideration and respect for your new family’s need for a solid, peaceful home.
Use Common sense in handling problems. Some of them just aren’t worth the effort. Common sense means backing up to look at the larger picture. Is this particular old holiday custom worth fighting over? Or would you be better off letting it go and trying something else.
For the sake of your kids, act like Christian adults! Or at least mature adults. Remember, it’s Christmas, don’t blaspheme the holiday by destroying what you’ve taught all year long.
If you look at it correctly, this holiday season can be a wonderful opportunity for you to improve your relationship with your stepchildren and your mate’s family, rather than a series of upsets. Keep tomorrow in mind today. Try to send yourself some blessings for next week, next month, and the rest of this coming year. You deserve that much, don’t you?
Always remember: you are the best chance your spouse and your stepkids have for a blessing. You. Don’t miss a chance to be a hero.
[NOTE: this is an excerpt from our guide book, Beat the Holiday Blues.]
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You are NOT alone! We love you and we can help.
God bless your whole, wonderful family,
STEPcoach Bob Collins